Fleeting time and long-lost friends

Fleeting time and long-lost friends

Today I reconnected with a friend I have not been in contact with for 30 years…30 years seems such a long time in print and yet, in reality it is no more than the blink of an eye once lived. For when at last I heard his voice, I was at once transported back to a time of my youth where my career was still being formed and I was just emerging into adulthood. His voice had not changed – not one bit. I was surprised by that and curious about the sudden and unexpected reconnection. The former boyfriend of my roommate in university, my friend began with a birthday wish and moved into a sharing about recent and painful life events.  I understood his pain, but more than that, I understood how to “grow through it” for it is life’s challenges that push our edges and help us to grow into the greatest version of ourselves. This is, I believe, a truth that can only be understood through the years of living with change and challenge. I had not understood this when I first knew my friend. I know it now. And so, it becomes, for me a reminder of the value of my years and the understanding that they alone, have helped me to find value in the painful events of life. Hopefully, my friend will come to a similar appreciation.